7 WAYS TO TALK TO ANYONE
“Hello my name is Paul and am pleased to meet you”
A chance to meet a person is a chance to change our perspective and maybe sometimes our lives. Getting it right can be a very hard task, even I myself Struggle keeping up with peoples lifestyle and countenance. Ever since I read about this strategy, my network has increased and improved in no small measure.
I will be sharing with you some very important and yet simple technique that will help talk to anyone, anywhere and anytime.
- say the first word anyhow it is
This is the Icebreaker, you know we always wonder what the other person will say or how they will feel when we approach them. The good news is everyone wants to be approached, spoken to and above all feel a sense of importance. Don’t care what the other person’s reaction may be instead, focus on what you want from the other person. It might be an answer to a question, direction, simple talk, or anything just go ahead and say whats on your mind. Believe me, the least you will get is a staunch face, a quite response or maybe “The attitude”
2. Be personal skip small talk
This is the part where you leave the weather alone. Immediately you are able to start a discussion with someone skip the small talk and get personal. Now here’s the golden rule! Talk about yourself you will be termed prideful, talk about others you will be called a gossip, talk about me and I will love you forever. Talk, listen, and listen to the other person.
3. Find commonness
As you talk and relate to whoever you talking to, synchronize and keep looking for what you both share in common. Should you not be able to find one, create one that aligns with your discussion with that Person. For instance, you were discussing about kitties. You don’t have to think too much, talk about the cat you saw rooming around your neighbourhood, ask questions about his cat. The whole essence is to create happy moments and letting people talk about themselves is one of the best ways I know and practice.
4. Pay a unique compliment
you and I we are all super tired of common compliment. If someone lets say a colleague sees us every morning each day and say “You are beautiful” we soon get tired of it and so do other people. In dishing out a compliment, learn to look at the person you interested in talking with for something particular about him/her and say it like you mean it. It could be the colour of their dress, movement of their chin, the dimple on their faces, just make sure it is unique and not common.
5. Ask for an opinion
People like it when their view and thoughts about a particular topic are asked for. It gives them a feeling of importance and trust me they will be more than ever willing to tell you more than the opinion you seek. You can ask indirect questions like:
· What do you think about …
· Where do you think will happen …
· About what you talked about earlier …
Add yours to it, as long as you make its indirect.
6. Be there
Be present, be alive, live in the moment, do everything to make sure you are there with the person you are conversing with both physically and emotionally. You have worked hard to get this person talking, now is the time to be attentive. Read how to listen here.
7. Remember ‘NOUNS’
Lastly, as you talk to people look out for what’s common around the environment. Let’s see the definition of a noun:
“ a word that functions as the name of some specific thing or sets of things, such as living creatures, objects, places, actions, qualities, states of existence, or ideas”
As you continue in your discussion there will be times when you will need inspiration and new ideas. Don’t look too far, see the noun around you. Plants, trees, houses, animals, other persons working by are there for you to explore.
Thank you very much for reading. I assure you doing the above will enable you to increase your network to a very large extent.
Thanks to Ire Aderinokun for making me write.
